by Dr. Helen Borel July 14, 2017
Actors often explore psychopathic personalities. They may even enjoy playing the Bernie Madoff character type, that real-life Wall Street mogul who “made off” with lots of friends’ and relatives’ millions and whose criminal antics drove one of his sons to suicide. But it’s no fun to be the spouse, sibling, son, daughter, friend, acquaintance or co-worker of a Psychopath. These are cold-fish, calculating monsters who’d as easily charm you out of your life as out of your money.
Their hallmark is lack of empathy due to the absence of a conscience. So be extra careful. The Psychopath is often very handsome or beautiful, is highly intelligent, and is always charming because he/she is able to mimic human attitudes, tones of voice and behaviors that make him/her appear like a decent, caring human being. But, though such a being has the outward appearance of a human person, it’s that very lack of conscience that makes this individual nonhuman.
And, when a Psychopath is thwarted in some cuckoo, exploitative motivation, beware. Anger, Rage, unpredictable Disappointing Behaviors will emerge to baffle you and hurt you deeply (because, all along, you thought this was a real human being).
No one yet knows why the Psychopath has zero conscience, a construct of Self that most humans feel and respond to in ways that keep us all social and loving and empathic. Theory has it that there’s a defect in the Psychopath’s brain, in the area responsible for the sense of what’s ethical, what’s right or wrong, of how he/she feels and of how others are feeling. It appears that the Psychopath is out of touch with such vital elements of Self, and doesn’t have access to these characteristics at all, possibly due to a genetic defect and/or to some severe early trauma that stunted the development of such a vital aspect of humanness.
If you’re entangled or involved in any way with this monstrous, incurable personality type, you are in for the full-spectrum of relationship distraughtness, from frustrated confusion to
abandonment and disillusion. And always you will lose money to these types – as well as losing your sense of Self-safety and trust in your fellow humans.
A related emotionally-crippled individual is the one with Borderline Personality Disorder who exhibits frequent unprovoked rages – a character marked by impulsiveness, truth-twisting, obvious lying even when the lie serves no purpose, devious manipulations and back-stabbing. Essentially the Borderline is vindictive about imagined wrongs.
If you are living (or working) with a Borderline, and worse if you think you are in love with one, be careful. These individuals can be suicidal and sometimes homicidal. They sometimes cut themselves and have to be hospitalized.
As a creative person, these character types interest me. Still, as a health professional wanting to cure all manner of mental problems, I’m troubled by the slow progress of research into these two afflictions and by the numerous patients I see who are victimized by these difficult types in their lives.
At this time, however, both problematic types are in the realm of NEUROSCIENCE, thought probably to be due to some kind of brain abnormalities in areas having to do with feelings and self-control.*
The above facts are offered to awaken anyone entangled with either of these extremely problematic personality types. (See the last three paragraphs for your solution.) Neither is known
to be curable. Psychopaths just chuckle at therapy. Borderlines need lifetime supportive therapy and often psychiatric medication too.
So, if you’re faced with either of these, or other troublesome characteristics in people close to you – such as depressives, obsessives, anxiety-ridden, schizoid, demanding, abusive, needy -you have to be feeling at least uncomfortable and, mostly, inhibited in moving on with your creative ambitions, in attaining your goal of a healthy love life.
To help you rapidly extricate yourself from such misery and move on to full career accomplishment and a mature, happy love life, you’ll benefit from high-quality psychotherapy, Don’t let “snakes in suits” fool you into wasting your feelings, your time, and your other assets on nebulous beings who’ll rob you of that very human connection you long for and deserve.
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*Nota bene: It’s not that I lack empathy for these two pitiful personality types; it’s simply that I empathize more profoundly with their victims (who’ve often been my suffering patients over 20 years of intense psychotherapy practice).